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Many many thanks for the comments and advise. No worries, I haven’t jump from 11th floor (off my office building :P). I’m fine. I just wanted to post up the rant to relieve my tension haha…

in fact, I wish I could change the maid, but seriously I can’t. There’s actually a history behind this. When my goody maid (that worked for me 3.55 yrs) wanted to go back, we applied for an Indon. She came in July. Yup she did. In fact I purposely arranged my exiting maid to be here till Aug, to make sure she can help to train the new one and go off. But after a week or 2, it went bad.

That bloody brand new maid came to me one night and said, “kakak, saya sudah tak boleh kerja. Tolong hantar balik agent”. I was flabbergasted. What the $)($%)_#($)_#($….So I asked her why? She said she can’t watch my kids as they are too naughty (out of her expectation). My eyes nearly popped. I know my kids are one of a kind, but they are definitely not those that’ll climb up the grille or play with a knife. After lecturing her, she still wants to go home. Hence I gave up. Moreoever she hasn’t been performing well during her days working with me. I do not want to keep someone who doesn’t want to work with me. Risk of running away. Risk of not doing work. All the thoughts in my mind.

Hence next day, we send her back to the agent. She got a whacky long lecturing from the agent. And we proceeded to order our replacement (with a lil bit top up). We decided to try on Cambo instead of Indon because it’s only RM20 difference. So that’s how I ended up having a cambodian maid.

Now that I’m not happy with her (at least for 90% of the time), I can’t change, because that is what the agreement with agent. Blame it on the agent..memang kanasai one their rules. And mind you, if I get a new one, it’s going to cost me a whopping RM8k at least!! Do I mind the money, yes I do, definitely.

Can I live without one? Sadly to say NO. As most of you know that I’m like a single mom most of the time, if I don’t have a maid to help me up, I think I’m just gonna lock myself up at home every weekend haha…I seriously don’t have a choice, if I do, I wouldn’t have gotten a replacement in the 1st place.

There are also changes in life that’s happening currently (post to be up tomorrow) which will affect the family entirely. And living without a maid is definitely not an option.

How do I feel now? Well, I’ve sort of did a half reset button and still trying to tell her and improve her. Yesterday, her performance is like thumbs up. I check her work at night and she has finish all on time. Hence I spoke to her and told her that she should do like this, fast and good. Then I won’t scold. If she doesn’t improve or forget things she’d sure get scolding. Probably after skipping 1 meal, she realised how important that plate of rice is for her. Well of course, I always have benefit of doubt on this woman. And I’d still put on my 007-spying mask all the time to catch her.

…over my cambodian maid.

She has been here for more than a month, but her work is getting from bad to worse. I’ve tried my best not to rant bout her everyday in the blog because it’s gonna look so ugly. Cause she makes me fume almost every other day without fail!! I actually keep a file and jot down every crazy thing she does to us thus far and what made me really mad was what happen over the last 2 weeks and particularly yesterday and the week before, Monday.

I was talking to Wen yesterday and she was trying to convince me with the BOD (Benefit of Doubt) for this maid, but I told her, she’s definitely not worth the BOD points. If she doesn’t understand English, I don’t think I’d be that mad. But the point is she understands it, but constantly being ignorant over what I teach and tell her drives me crazy.

I am a very patient person. Most people who knows me knows very well how high my tolerance level is, but this maid….I’m speechless. I even told Daddy that for the pass 3 yrs+ of having 3 maids, she’s the worse I’ve ever gotten (1 runaway, 1 worked for 3 yrs 8 months). I lost my patience and I yelled at her. Never in my life I did that to my previous maids. To make things worse, I know I’m giving a very bad image to my kids, but I have no choice because if I don’t scold her, she’s getting all over my nerves.

Here are some of the crazy things she has done so far.

1. leave the clothes until very late, 8pm only keep. I asked her if she want to wait for tomorrow’s sun to come up before keeping.
2. put an empty tupperware into my kids school bag instead of filling it with food :|.
3. woke up at 645am instead of 530am to do her work. She forgot to on her alarm!!
4. Set alarm for her to off fire for the boiling soup, I went upstairs to sleep. After I woke up, she didn’t off it. She ignored the alarm and continue do her chores and left the boiling soup cooking still. Lucky thing I didn’t get a black pot like Chin Nee’s case.
5. forget to close the kitchen door before leaving the house in the morning
6. ask her to bring diapers upstairs, she went to unpack the whole packet. then didn’t have space to put she cramp everything in the cabinet until there’s no space for clothes, only diapers!!
7. left the kids school bag in the car overnight!!
8. dried clothes left under the moon overnight!! Next day she went to keep it. Then in the afternoon she took it out again to dry…what the he*k she’s trying to do. Dry or not dry??
9. Vyktore wet his pants while on our way home. She left the wet pants in my car when we reached home!!
10. Ask her to make susu (milk) for Vyktore. But she brought Vyktore to toilet for she she (small biz). I even specifically told her milk, not shu shu…but she went downstairs, again took him to toilet and force him to pee (actually he just pee before i ask her to make milk) and came upstairs, still hasn’t drank his milk!!
11. almost open door to an unknown stranger. Actually I was expecting the plumber, but wanted to test her if she will open or not, true enough she went to open without asking me. I was quick to caught her when she slide the door open, before she open the front gate.
12. left her own clothes unwashed for 2 days, all in the pail. When I found out I threaten that I’ll throw it away the next time I see unwashed clothes in the pail. She wasn’t happy and showed her dissatisfaction by standing by the kitchen sink pretending to wash the kitchen towel.
13. lost Vyktore’s brand new pair of pyjamas (pants went missing)
14. misplace clothes within my house and MIL’s house (no we couldn’t find the missing pants still!!).
15. wash toilet only wash the floor, not the wall. And took her 3 hours to wash toilet and clean up my bedroom. My previous maid took 2 hours can even wipe the table and the windows.
16. very good in wasting time. 2 weeks ago, we went to Penang. I told her to get up 4am. Not even to clean the house, but to bath and hang the clothes in the washing machine. I went downstairs at 445am. Asked her if she has hung the clothes, she said Yes. But I checked the washing machine, it’s all still in there!! Later after the trip, I even found out she didn’t wash her clothes again that morning. So imagine 45 mins wasted, not doing anything but take bath only.
17. Gave coffee for Vyktore to drink. The coffee was actually for her. So mad I yelled at her in the restaurant.
18. Lock her own bathroom door with her outside. I had to call locksmith and ended up paying RM60, which I told her I’ll deduct from her salary.
19. Left Vyktore unattended in MIL’s house. Vyktore managed to climb all the way upstairs. MIL’s house the stairs no railing and none of the kids are allowed to climb up unless with adult supervision.

And what made me boiling mad, here are a couple of incidents:

1. We went to McD drive thru to pack a quick lunch. Everyone had their own meal. Hers was a Filet-O-Fish. Vyktore was asleep by then, so I left his nuggets in the kitchen. When he woke up, I wanted to give him the nuggets and to my amaze, my maid finished the whole pack and left only 1 piece!! I was so mad because I never gave her instructions that she could eat and she just ate it as though it was leftover. And she had her share, not that she didn’t have food. Reminds me that I shouldn’t give her all these frivolous food, just give her rice everyday will do. Eat so much, but work so little.
2. I always go into her toilet be it to bring the kids to do their biz, or just to spot check. I spotted this floor mat, which was left in the water. It was there for many many days until one day I asked her. What is it doing there? How many days. She told me 10!! Crazy…10 days soaking there for what? I asked her, she want to keep until 20 days is it? She said YES!! I almost threw that wet dirty floor mat smack right into her face if the bathroom door was not locked at that moment. She’s so lazy, thinking that the longer she can dip in the water, means the dirt will come off itself. I explained to her, she need to wash it after dipping overnight and scrub. Not leave for 10days!!
3. She always like to wash pyjamas separately. Either all pants, or all top, but not together. I’ve prompted her and demo to her as well how she should wash. All must go in pairs. At first it was only 1 pair. But last week, it went up to 5 pairs!! Imagine 5 pair of pyjamas only with the top, no pants. I’m very upset because despite the fact that I’ve told her so many times she still repeats the same mistake. I even demo to her on the spot and ask her to do the same (I mess up all the clothes and ask her to show me how) and yet she can do wrong. I had no choice but to scream at her and show her again and ask her to do it again and again till finally she gets it right. And few days later, I saw her dumping all the clothes into the machine just like that (without even checking the clothes). Got scolding from me again.
4. one morning I went downstairs, I wanted to check if she has completed her work. Instead I saw her sitting on the floor, head resting on her bed. When she saw me, she jumped up and quickly pretend to wipe her table. i asked her what’s wrong, she say she wiping, but i told her i saw her resting. Then she say she pain. Told me her neck is pain cause carry Vyktore. But that morning Vyktore has not even come downstairs. She can’t explain to me as well whether the pain was triggered yesterday or today by merely saying Yes to whatever I asked. At the same time, she still pretend to wipe the table, and I’m so mad cause she keep doing her work and avoid eye contact, i snatched the cloth from her and told her stop doing work. That’s very rude when I try to talk to her and give her instructions, she’s never listening and always walk away. That explains why she’s doing all the wrong things.
5. Over the deepavali weekend, I went to Cheras to fetch my dad over. Just a mere 1 hour, when I reach home, she opened the door. I can see that she went to bed. I’m fine with that, if she has done her work since that time was already 930pm. But what I saw was: Vyktore’s leftover snacks still left on the living room table, she didn’t take it and wash. There was another bowl of leftover snacks on the kitchen table, also not washed. I asked her what she did 1 hour I went out. She say she slept!! I scolded her because she never finish up her work before she went to bed. Things I never ask her to do (sleep/eat) she can do it perfect, but things I ask her to do, she never do. She also left the dried plates on the drying tray and didn’t keep it. When I asked her why, she said she waiting for me to come home!! Adui….so if that night I didn’t come home she’d sleep till next morning I bet. No wander I see cockroach around lately in my house. Thanks to all these undone job at night.

I had the last straw last night. Faythe wasn’t feeling well (had tummy upset) when I picked her up after work. So we quickly stop over at the paed’s place to get a quick fix. The queue was so long, we only left the place after like 1 hour later. When we got in the car, Vyktore was as usual, eating his snacks and wanted some water. Quickly the maid open the school bag and took out the water tumbler and gave him water.

I heard while I was driving, I questioned the maid,

Jazz: Why the tumbler has water. You didn’t clean in Grandma’s house?
Maid: Kept quiet…
Jazz: Hey, I’m asking you why. Can you answer me?
Maid: Whispered…I forgot….
Jazz: What? I can’t hear you, can you speak louder
Maid: I forgot….
Jazz: *turned into evil step mother mode* What….you forget? How many times I tell you, you have to do your work when you are at Grandma house. What did you do today? Tell me?
Maid: Kept quiet…
Jazz: I’m asking you what you do today? After school, they come home, what you do? Tell me, one by one
Maid: I give lice (rice) to Vyktore. Then I mandi Vyktore. Then Vyktore sleep.
Jazz: Vyktore sleep how long?
Maid: 2…
Jazz: What time he sleep?
Maid: 2
Jazz: What time wake up?
Maid: 5
Jazz: That’s 3 hours, not 2. So what you do in that 3 hours when he sleep?
Maid: I wash pate (plate).
Jazz: Wash plate…that won’t take 3 hours. Somemore?
Maid: I mandi…and then Vyktore wake up
Jazz: *turned into a beast mode* Mandi!! 3 hours and then Vyktore wake up!! Mandi only 30mins, wash plate the most 10mins, that’s not even 1 hour and you say Vyktore sleep 3 hours. You sleep when Vyktore sleep, didn’t you? (MIL told me earlier that she was hiding in the bedroom watching Vyktore sleep without doing anything cause she want to be lazy, until my MIL went in and ask her to come out)

Still fuming and already cursing and swearing inside me, I prompted somemore:

Jazz: You forget to do your work. Can you forget to eat? Today how many times you eat? Can you skip 1 time and forget?

Continue driving and reached home. She took down all the things, to my amazed, the milk bottle from school was not even washed!! Can you imagine how smelly it is!! This not the 1st time she didn’t do it.

Jazz: *Snatched the bottle from her and turned into a crazy woman mode* See this…how many times I say must wash, must clean. Whole day you never do your work in Grandma house!! I actually tapped her head slightly with the bento box a few times (that shows how geram I was)
Jazz: OK if you don’t want to do your work, I’m fine. You can forget doing your work, I also can forget to give you food. I’m going to call Grandma and tell her, tomorrow no lunch for you. You want?
Maid: Stare at me blankly. NO…
Jazz: NO!! Then why you forget to do your work. Why you never forget to eat.

I picked up the phone and called MIL. Told her tomorrow no lunch for my maid cause she forgot to do her work today, so I also conveniently forgot about her lunch. At that same time when I was talking to my MIL, she left my door house open and was busy washing the stuff she didn’t wash in MIL’s place. Lucky thing there’s no thief or robbers break in and my kids didn’t run out of the house.

More juicy story…after I put the phone down, I went back to the kitchen. By then I was checking the bag which she brings to MIL house everyday. To my amaze, I saw a packet of food (rice with 3 dishes)

Jazz: Who’s food is this?
Maid: Mine. I didn’t eat in Grandma house
Jazz: *Lagi mad* So you didn’t do your work, and yet you have not eaten your food. What is wrong with you. So slow!! Do work faster. Tonight you better make sure you finish all your work before you eat!! The slower you do, the longer it’s going to take and you will sleep later and not have your meals on time.

After the fuming conversations, I went upstairs and took shower with the kids. Then she came upstairs, quietly sit down put the clothes and do her work while I watch her.

Gosh…I really can’t imagine how these people work. She’s definitely not stupid and don’t understand. I know this very well because she actually eavesdropped on my conversation with Faythe the night before. The next day she did exactly the same as what I told Faythe, although my intention wasn’t that. That made me realise she actually understand alot of English. Even MIL told me she understands what we say most of the time and she can get it done, but the point is lazy and ignorant. The body is here, but the soul is like elsewhere.

Is this something to do with Cambo maid or it’s just my luck. I’m so very tempted to send her back, but because we’ve paid so much and we seriously need a helper we have no choice. Daddy specifically told her she better buck up on her work and next round when he comes home, he wants to see improvement.

Faythe’s 2 cents of advise to her:

Faythe: kakak, you must do your work properly. If not Mommy will scold you. You must do work like Ros, Tini & Rin Tuch (Tini my ex-maid). You must clean properly and work like them. You must do fast fast. You cannot always do wrong one. OK?

See….even my 3yo girl realise how stress I am with this maid!!

I hope the next time I blog bout her, it’d be some good news, not some big disaster waiting to happen.

Extremely backdated post, but I thought I wanted to post it up just for record purpose .

Photo:

Faythe with her buddy, Rachel. She’s my friend’s daughter, just 3 months old difference.

Vyktore: sitting down clapping hands as the other children sang.

Before the end of semester in August, the kindy had family day. I was actually a bit reluctant to go, having the thought of handling 2 kids without a maid and going out is really a nightmare. But I decided that I should go ahead. After all, it’s in the school compound, I won’t risk loosing my kids (I’ve been having this constant nightmare that my kids will get kidnapped..gosh…).

We were supposed to dress the kids up with National Costume since it’s Patriotic Month. Hence I put on Aodai for Faythe & Sam Fu for Vyktore. And I wore a Chinese top too haha…

There were food served, we had some light snacks. Then the kids performed 3 songs:

• Negaraku
• Rasa Sayang
• 2 Tigers (mandarin song)

Faythe didn’t want to join the singing, as usual. She pretended to be busy by helping herself with some papers and scissors and busy cutting away. She only joined the singing when the mandarin song came along.

Vyktore instead join in the fun and clap along and dance along. He stood still when they sang Negaraku haha….

Sometimes I seriously can’t imagine how the teachers manage to do that. To put a whole bunch of kids (whom 1/2 of them refuse to follow instructions) to perform in front of parents. Bravo to the teachers.

After the singing, we had some family games and the day was over.

I took quite a bit of photos of various kids, but not putting them up here, in case some parents do not want their kids photo to be published.

I think the title sure grabs ur attention :P, but sorry, no sassy, hunky 6 pax body to show in this post haha…

I had a very special personal request from Daddy (yeah, you read it right, Daddy aka MR. HON) to take some photos for him. Cause he wants to do a portrait oil painting for himself. So we’ve been waiting for this a long time, cause he wanted to take pics with his Pingat awarded by Agung sometime ago together with his Pilot uniform.

He finally brought his pilot suit back, comes with a jacket :|. So we had a crazy photo session at home. Why I call it crazy, cause we started off with serious posing like those normal passport photos haha…then we went on for some godfather posing, comes with cigar mind u!! So it went all whacky towards the end.

I can still remember my maid (old maid) was sitting there laughing when we were shooting LOL. Same goes to the kids. They must be wandering what on earth Daddy is doing haha….

So next time if you need male (but not so hunky body shape), you know who to call eh ;). Some of the photos I took and I decided to scrap a LO for him :). I hope he won’t kill me when he sees this….or his friends sees this LOL.

Note for Daddy: Now you can’t complain I never write anything on you in this blog eh

My laptop recently show signs of ageing. It’s been crawling whenever I need to open several files at a single time. I think it’s high time to get some laptop memory and boost the RAM from 1GB to at least 2GB. Running all the Graphics Applications running simultaneously, it is no doubt the laptop slows down. Time to set aside some money for the upgrade.

(credits & details here)

pheww…I’m sure everyone is glad that the Australia trip posting has finally ended LOL.

This is a very much delayed post for Vyktore, who turned 28 months this month on the 10th. Must slap myself for being suck a slacker in updating their latest updates.

As you can see in the pic…he’s so sneaky and cheeky nowadays, sometimes I so beh tahan….

Vital Stats:

Weight: 13kg but I feel that he’s heavier than Faythe at anytime!!

Height: Can’t remember, but I notice he has grown taller lately and lost a bit of his chubbiness. He’s 1/2 a head shorter than Faythe.

Teeth: 16!!

Dietary:

He’s not very adventurous when it comes to solid. He’d stick to his good old fried rice or rice with soup. He don’t really fancy western food (pizza, spaghetti). But when comes to snack & drinks, he will try just  everything.

For the record:

Grapes: He loves grapes. He eats that day in day out after his meals as snacks!! Pretty expensive taste he has. He used to eat them minus the skin, now he will take the skin too. He’s been having these as snacks for pass 2 months and still not bored with it. He can finish a bowl all by himself

Speech: He’s speaking more now, but still on simple words and not exact pronunciation. Sometimes he refuse to say the correct word but insist what he says is right (e.g. watch, he’d say it’s clock). Some of the new words which I manage to jot down:

• kakak - the maid
• mama - mommy, but he only calls me when he got very urgent needs, if not don’t even hope for that
• jeh jeh - faythe
• kok - clock
• ark - shark
• ide - hide (hiding under the blanket to play peek-a-boo)
• bah - bus
• bar - butterfly
• pane - aeroplane
• coh - helicopter

I’ll add more to the list when I can remember.

Books: loves to read, but only a few books which has his favourite stuff in it (butterfly, bus, train, aeroplane, helicopter, cars, fish). He likes me to read only the page with the things he wants to see and refuse to let me turn the page :|.

Tip toe: He’s been tip toeing at home very often now that I’m wandering if he’s a potential ballerina LOL. He loves walking on his toes and running on his toes…

Spinning around: besides tip toeing, he loves spinning himself around. He will raise both his hand shoulder level, then he’d turn himself round n round non stop until he gets dizzy and out of balance. Then he’d laugh out loud.

Skip: lately I notice he started skipping too :|. While tip toeing, he’d skip a few steps front and backwards…whoa…he’s really telling me he’s a potential dancer perhaps.

Terrible 2s: He seems to have split personality. Sometimes he’s very good boy, sitting down alone playing by himself. But once he’s disturbed (usually by Faythe grabbing his toys), he’d go berserk and throw all his tantrums ranging from high pitch scream, throw things on the floor, lying down on the floor with his face down. Lately, if you do something he don’t like, he will spit :|. Gosh, I don’t know where he learned this. He still screams in high pitch but the throwing things & himself has lessen after many stern staring from ME. And I’ve continuously slap his mouth lightly each time he spits and tell him NO.

Looks for alternative: He knows very well that I don’t give in to him at times and I don’t turn on the TV for him, hence he look for alternative to ask the maid to do it. Good thing the maid is new, so she doesn’t know how to turn it on. Of which he’s not too happy bout it and will start his screaming series when he don’t get his TV session at home

Love the water: He loves loves the water so much. So much that when we bath, I’d actually switch it to spray mode so that the water would spray all over the bathroom. Guess what, he’d dance in joy and try to catch the water :|. He’ll keep asking me to switch to that mode everytime I change it back to normal mode for shower.

Toilet trained: Yup, I wrote bout this last week, he’s toilet trained, at least for the day time. I’m really glad that although he doesn’t speak much, he’s still able to signal us that he needs to go off to the loo. He’s still doesn’t like public toilet, or even pee-ing by the roadside

The jinx morning cry: I think I wrote too early bout him not crying to school. After the 5 days raya break, he’s back to his old self. He still whines when we drop him off now, but he no longer shake his head whenever we say go school. I guess he’s more happy now, but still not very prepared to see me leave the school every morning.

The stairs affair: He stopped taking his milk on the stairs for sometime, but it has returned again!! Each morning before going to school, he’d lie down on the stairs (last step of the stairs) and quietly drink his milk. He’d actually put all his fav toys next to the steps so that he can drink and peep them at the same time :|.

School Report:

Teacher told me his attention span has increased lately and he’d follow them when they sing nursery rhymes. He’s also more receptive towards the things they said to him.

His fav. tunes:

• Wheels on the bus
• Incy Wincy Spider
• Hickory Dickory Dock

That’s all for this month, hopefully I’ll update his 29th months diligently next month.

When I arrived in Australia, the weather was the one I hated most. I hate the coldness and chill. That was the very first time I was introduced to electric blanket. It is really wonderful I thought. The bed was kept warm all night and I could sleep so well. I swear that if ever KL has winter (as if), I’d sure get 1 haha. I really can’t stand cold weather.

On Wednesday, Daddy asked me to pick him up from JJ 1U. On my way there, the jam was horrendous. I totally can’t believe myself to be stuck in the jam. I mean, it’s only Member’s Day sale, how cheap can it get eh…But when Daddy told me he bought his loots for 50% discount, I told myself, whoa…no wander so many people head to 1u LOL.

Of late, I noticed my office supplies been missing. I suspect must be the night shifters borrowing my stuff and never did return it back. From 3 pens it came down to just 1 left. Even I’ve labelled them, it’s no use. I guess I have to stock up some office supplies soon, or maybe lock them up after I use it for fear that I might loose them again after I replenish.