Many many thanks for the comments and advise. No worries, I haven’t jump from 11th floor (off my office building :P). I’m fine. I just wanted to post up the rant to relieve my tension haha…
in fact, I wish I could change the maid, but seriously I can’t. There’s actually a history behind this. When my goody maid (that worked for me 3.55 yrs) wanted to go back, we applied for an Indon. She came in July. Yup she did. In fact I purposely arranged my exiting maid to be here till Aug, to make sure she can help to train the new one and go off. But after a week or 2, it went bad.
That bloody brand new maid came to me one night and said, “kakak, saya sudah tak boleh kerja. Tolong hantar balik agent”. I was flabbergasted. What the $)($%)_#($)_#($….So I asked her why? She said she can’t watch my kids as they are too naughty (out of her expectation). My eyes nearly popped. I know my kids are one of a kind, but they are definitely not those that’ll climb up the grille or play with a knife. After lecturing her, she still wants to go home. Hence I gave up. Moreoever she hasn’t been performing well during her days working with me. I do not want to keep someone who doesn’t want to work with me. Risk of running away. Risk of not doing work. All the thoughts in my mind.
Hence next day, we send her back to the agent. She got a whacky long lecturing from the agent. And we proceeded to order our replacement (with a lil bit top up). We decided to try on Cambo instead of Indon because it’s only RM20 difference. So that’s how I ended up having a cambodian maid.
Now that I’m not happy with her (at least for 90% of the time), I can’t change, because that is what the agreement with agent. Blame it on the agent..memang kanasai one their rules. And mind you, if I get a new one, it’s going to cost me a whopping RM8k at least!! Do I mind the money, yes I do, definitely.
Can I live without one? Sadly to say NO. As most of you know that I’m like a single mom most of the time, if I don’t have a maid to help me up, I think I’m just gonna lock myself up at home every weekend haha…I seriously don’t have a choice, if I do, I wouldn’t have gotten a replacement in the 1st place.
There are also changes in life that’s happening currently (post to be up tomorrow) which will affect the family entirely. And living without a maid is definitely not an option.
How do I feel now? Well, I’ve sort of did a half reset button and still trying to tell her and improve her. Yesterday, her performance is like thumbs up. I check her work at night and she has finish all on time. Hence I spoke to her and told her that she should do like this, fast and good. Then I won’t scold. If she doesn’t improve or forget things she’d sure get scolding. Probably after skipping 1 meal, she realised how important that plate of rice is for her. Well of course, I always have benefit of doubt on this woman. And I’d still put on my 007-spying mask all the time to catch her.
sigh….this maid thing is driving everyone mad eh? you hang in there. i can’t wait to catch your post tomorow 😀
Hope her improvement last… take care.
Tomorrow’s post will be more kancheong than this. *jeng, jeng, jeng*
Sometimes have to pujuk them like children. Reward her when she does well, punish when not!
wah piang.. very headache ini cambo. Sei lor.. mine also coming edi. sigh..
Changes in life?!? Interesting….can’t wait till your post tomorrow!! 🙂
I’m eager to know about the changes too. 😛
But then, if she learned her lesson after skipping a meal and can perform well, maybe there is a room of improvement for her. Ya, still have to spy on her all the time.
hey..maybe need to send to Mumgather for training. ahahhahaha you read her post?
I can understand your feeling. For me too, if I got no maid, sei lo…
have you check her language skill? maybe the england she learned is not authentic one..ahahhaha someone need to speak to her in cambodian?
i cannot imagine u yelling n getting crazy! that maid of yours really pisses u off big time! i laughed at the stories cos it’s really stupid of her! ha ha ha! but i pity u…poor mummy! my friend’s case was worse…she slapped her maid!
hey, dont let her make ur blood boil too much! she cannot be that stupid. maybe it’s intentional. u never know! try to use reverse approach maybe?
always easier said than done! anyway, take care! good luck too!
aiyo…poor u!! yet i had to laugh at your changing mode! I feel that u treat your maid too good. Buy good food for them where all they need is just a plate of rice.
just realised this morning where my went my missing Nyonya Bakchang brought by my mum from melaka. My maid tipu, she did not throw the plastic bag accidentally, in fact, now I suspect she ATE it even though it is made of pork.
seriously i wish i could lay my hands on my maid’s face when she was sleeping soundly on my sofa yesterday morning instead of cleaning my home. but many advice me not to, as my babies are too young or she may harm them.
can’t wait for my boys to grow up soon so i can send her home!
all the best to u!
hope she gets better 🙂
Good to hear that there’s one-day-thumbs-up for her, but god knows if she will last for long!
Hope she really improve after “skipping” her one meal. But still, have to check on her all the time. They are slack most of the time. One minute can be perfect, next minute will back to their dreamland again. I have nag, scream and yell at my maid for 1 year plus already!!
hope she will be better and follow your working instruction.
anyway you need to be extra careful with her as she might feel “bo kam guan” after all those incidents!
Good that there’s some improvement. Guess u’ll hv to be on ur toes all the time.
wah so she really skipped one meal eh? LOL!!!
Hi Jazz, can I have the password for your ‘The final day..’ post ? I been follow your blog quite a while. I had just started to blog last month, encouraged by Elina.
wah. she wants to go back, u still talk her out of it? YOu are too kind, lor. Fact that she give up so easily means she will not work one inch harder for anyone. That being said, I have the same issues with some of my former maids too. I just let the agents deal with them. Boh Lat !!
Psst.. you can actually do w/out her liao..
rice is very important to cambodian! they can eat a lot for each meal! good punishment.
oh ur previous maid os make an excuse to leave … mine oso after 6w tell me my kids very noti cant cope wif them… wat a lousy excuse
Actually, if you can get a nanny or daycare centre, you’ll get along just fine. You can get a part-time cleaner for the house. Save lots of nonsense on these $(*%&*(#&( maids problems..
Jazz, after read about your maid issues… there is a lot reasons behind the actual situation. Obviously, she is not smart and trying to make a fool in front of you. However, not deny that you already have a ruler to measure her performance based on your previous maid.
Back to reality, such comparison shouldn’t even bypass your mind as your ex-maid is with you for 3 years plus and she is just with you not even ups to 3 months. You should sit down and tell her what you expect from her. Let her know your expectation and discuss with her what is the actual problem between you both. Maybe this way will make you feel better.
Getting a maid is try to make our life easier. If she have make your life become worst, maybe you should even try to quit her as it do not serve a point here.
Worst come to worst…you should consider what “Babysmooches” idea…
Maybe talking in such a good way is just as what people describe… “talk is easier” and we are not in your shoes at that point….
But, 3 party is always can see more clearly then the person involved…
Just a 2cents from me…..Hope there is a lot improvement after she skipped the meal.
Be happy ok….
Gud luck…..